{"id":390,"date":"2023-05-02T20:40:50","date_gmt":"2023-05-03T00:40:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/?p=390"},"modified":"2023-05-15T21:33:20","modified_gmt":"2023-05-16T01:33:20","slug":"finding-new-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/finding-new-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Finding NEW Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0 In today\u2019s post I wanted to talk about <\/span>\u201cFinding New Love\u201d.\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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Meaning figuring out what you want and going for it.\"\"<\/p>\n

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Even if that means leaving that one person or thing behind.<\/p>\n

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Finding new love is more about being open to change.<\/p>\n

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Especially drastic ones.<\/p>\n

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I couldn\u2019t tell you how many times I have been hit with full life circles and moments where it\u2019s \u201cwhat goes around comes around\u201d.<\/p>\n

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I was never prepared for it, but also I never learned from my mistakes on top of my previous failures within my friendships and relationships.<\/p>\n

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I feel as though I needed to be complacent and stagnant with the way I went about things, such as handling my emotions outwardly, or dealing with my people in the exact same way.<\/p>\n

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Although I may have not been injurious to all from what I account.<\/p>\n

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It is worse when an individual wants to be spoken to differently or maybe even want to do different things, besides always going out to eat or going bowling.<\/p>\n

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Eventually, those things would get tiring.<\/p>\n

Moreover, I also felt like how I wanted to be loved needed to be stagnant as well because I feared being labeled as a hypocrite.<\/p>\n

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There were moments where I felt like I wanted one thing out of a friendship\/ relationship but months later that would change\u2026I thought.<\/p>\n

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If I\u2019m constantly wanting something different then it must\u2019ve not been really serious or something what I actually wanted.<\/p>\n

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But that\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n

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Wanting something different in terms of how to be loved, heck even what you want to eat is important.<\/p>\n

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Never sell yourself short when it comes to love or yourself.<\/p>\n

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You are always constantly growing, constantly learning things about yourself and adopting other things\u2026it\u2019s life! It\u2019s natural\u2026<\/p>\n

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Overall, knowing and realizing that I had a platform to grow from things that no longer seemed like me anymore or served me.<\/p>\n

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It let go a lot of tension in trying to maintain something that wasn\u2019t there to begin with.<\/p>\n

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Even though I still sometimes struggle with moving on from traits and wants that no longer matter to me.<\/p>\n

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I find it really helpful to know it doesn\u2019t matter if I change and grow from it.<\/p>\n

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XOXO,<\/p>\n

Sangai<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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