{"id":363,"date":"2023-05-01T15:58:56","date_gmt":"2023-05-01T19:58:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/?p=363"},"modified":"2023-05-01T15:58:56","modified_gmt":"2023-05-01T19:58:56","slug":"real-love-or-fake-love-pt2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/real-love-or-fake-love-pt2\/","title":{"rendered":"Real Love or Fake Love? Pt2"},"content":{"rendered":"

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As I discussed previously about friendships and bonds, my experiences with friends within my young adult life have put a lot of perspective on who I am as a person and who I let around me.<\/span><\/h4>\n

\u00a0 \u00a0I’ve heard many things like\u00a0<\/span>‘Birds of a feather flock together”<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0or\u00a0<\/span>“You are who your company is.”<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Meaning subconsciously, the people you have around you are a reflection of yourself as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not that this phrase bothered me, but it did make me understand it a bit more as I am starting to grow from many situations that aren’t serving me anymore and people I no longer align with.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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In terms of my current friendship status, I wouldn’t say that I’m entirely friendless, but I could say that my friend circle has shortened as the school year developed. I am okay with that reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I sure don’t hate those that I no longer confide in or hang out with, But I am also very happy that I no longer put myself around them forcefully.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I would say as I begin to grow and develop assets and skills, and maybe even want to pursue my career\/ talents in different aspects. <\/span><\/p>\n

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I’ll likely continue to lose friends or become distant with some along the way, which it’s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Furthermore, I will always have to realize who is my friend and who is being genuine with me. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Those who are will understand me. <\/span><\/p>\n

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They will understand my eagerness to grow and change, they’ll clap for my success and achievements, and they’ll be very supportive no matter how close I am to them emotionally, physically, and spiritually.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The people who I thought were my friends began to be heavily obnoxious and envious to the point where I would be excluded from certain things, or I would be talked about in sarcastic and under-toned ways.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I even had subliminal messages thrown directly in my face…The list goes on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Granted, It was unfortunate, but I was thankful.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Thankful for the knowledge I gained from the experience before and experience now. <\/span><\/p>\n

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It made me see again; what it’s like when people mask themselves as your friend but don’t have your best interest at heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

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I have been through this experience before. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Way back in middle school, but I didn’t forget. <\/span><\/p>\n

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I just had different expectations for my adulthood friendships.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I now know that in this moment, I’m living no matter what path I’m on or the age. <\/span><\/p>\n

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There will be repeated situations not because I haven’t learned. <\/span><\/p>\n

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But because I can apply what I learned the first time and move according, so it doesn’t affect me as much.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I believe it is vital to change who you are, and also learn from the decisions people have made so you can be able to move through relationships smoothly.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Any relationship at that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I want everyone to take some idea from my experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

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I hope I am able to give thorough advice without really telling you what to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Comment below how you handle fake love from others in your circle or others in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What are the factors that lead you to determine who is not for you and has your best interest at heart?<\/span><\/p>\n

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I hope you enjoy your day :).<\/span><\/p>\n

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XOXO,<\/p>\n

Sangai<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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