{"id":355,"date":"2023-04-23T23:45:05","date_gmt":"2023-04-24T03:45:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/?p=355"},"modified":"2023-04-23T23:45:05","modified_gmt":"2023-04-24T03:45:05","slug":"a-description-of-me-follow-me-on-my-love-journey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fredstories.com\/swipingonlove\/a-description-of-me-follow-me-on-my-love-journey\/","title":{"rendered":"A DESCRIPTION OF ME.- Follow me on my love Journey."},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dear readers,<\/p>\n

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As most of you may know, this blog is about the stigmas of college love and shows different perspectives of students and young individuals’ ideals of love.<\/p>\n

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However, I want to personalize our blog a bit at this time and show you my own aspects of how I face my reality of love and relationships.<\/p>\n

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This is an intro picture- Sangai Keita<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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Briefly, I wanted to touch on our long break.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We really do want to dedicate time to this page but because we are also students running this.<\/p>\n

There are some instances where we might be to busy or not always be able to post frequently.<\/p>\n

Along with our mental and physical stability.
\nIn addition to our extracurriculars and emotionally dealing with our relationships with other people HAHA!<\/p>\n

Anyway, in the time being while Sam is away.<\/p>\n

I will be talking more about my personal romantic love life along with my platonic relationships and train of thought as I uncover some aspects.<\/p>\n

Currently, I have struggled tremendously with my relationships this semester.<\/p>\n

The amount of times I have cried and laughed has been fairly concerning…well not in a way to cause alarm, but more spiritually and mentally.<\/p>\n

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This year so far I have developed more of a sense of discipline and caution.<\/p>\n

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What I mean by this is holding myself accountable first before I find blame to the outside source, but also addressing things in the best way I know how.<\/p>\n

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I used to have a hard time getting what I wanted to say across when it came to arguments with my partner and even friendships, or with family.<\/p>\n

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Furthermore, in those moments as an argument would occur, I would be so emotional and would literally say anything that came to mind.<\/p>\n

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Nonetheless, I would feel really exhausted and heated, and that was because of my tone.<\/p>\n

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My tone would always seem to be a bother to those that I conversated with. Even if it was just a normal conversation.<\/p>\n

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I didn’t have much stability or control over how I spoke. I just did.
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This used to really bother me over some time especially when it came to communicating with my partner.<\/p>\n

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I started to find ways in addressing my tone and calming myself down when I spoke with people or got into arguments.<\/p>\n

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But as result, I never seemed to have a fair and productive conversation…I still struggle with that to this day.<\/p>\n

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However, I couldn’t help but notice that I repeatedly kept finding myself in these situations.<\/p>\n

I asked myself what is wrong with me?<\/p>\n

Am I not that interesting?<\/p>\n

Is there something that I can’t see that other people do?<\/p>\n

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I kept doubting myself.<\/p>\n

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Ultimately, it lead to me not being open with my thoughts or not really being able to have a smooth conversation because I have become too cautious and anxious to fully express myself.<\/p>\n

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As I write this intro about myself to the readers of this blog,<\/p>\n

I have deeper questions to ask myself that may even be projected onto you.<\/p>\n

With the constant things that may go wrong in your relationships with people are you the one to reflect on your actions?<\/p>\n

Do you constantly feel like you aren’t heard?<\/p>\n

Has there been a habit within your relationships where your faults are openly and blatantly pointed out, and can you think of reasons why it is?<\/p>\n

How do you feel when these faults are pointed out?<\/p>\n

Why do you feel this way? The list goes on and on. These are questions to ask yourself when you have issues that occur.<\/p>\n

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Moreover, my constant reflection on my actions and verbal conversations lead me to rule out things I felt about myself.<\/p>\n

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And also figure out if people in my life are actually being manipulative, bad friends, or insincere.<\/p>\n

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On the other hand, figuring out why something was said and how it was said, and who said it in the first place.<\/p>\n

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This goes for actions too.<\/p>\n

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Evidently, I have come to realize my people-pleasing tendency, and moreover, that side of me has led me into the struggle I have had for years.<\/p>\n

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I am here to uncover some of my struggles as a young black female college student.<\/p>\n

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Over the course of the semester, I would hope to cover my experience with communication in relationships; dealing with infidelity, dealing with fake friends, and also outgrowing certain environments, and more!<\/p>\n

I hope I didn’t take your brain in circles lol.<\/p>\n

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Please share with me as a college student your deepest struggle with relationships. I would love to hear from you all.<\/p>\n

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Remember, I am not a professional, and just a regular person. some things may apply, some things may not. It all depends on the individual.<\/p>\n

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XOXO,<\/p>\n

-Sangai<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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