Finding NEW Love

  In today’s post I wanted to talk about “Finding New Love”. 

Meaning figuring out what you want and going for it.

Even if that means leaving that one person or thing behind.

Finding new love is more about being open to change.

Especially drastic ones.

I couldn’t tell you how many times I have been hit with full life circles and moments where it’s “what goes around comes around”.

I was never prepared for it, but also I never learned from my mistakes on top of my previous failures within my friendships and relationships.

I feel as though I needed to be complacent and stagnant with the way I went about things, such as handling my emotions outwardly, or dealing with my people in the exact same way.

Although I may have not been injurious to all from what I account.

It is worse when an individual wants to be spoken to differently or maybe even want to do different things, besides always going out to eat or going bowling.

Eventually, those things would get tiring.

Moreover, I also felt like how I wanted to be loved needed to be stagnant as well because I feared being labeled as a hypocrite.

There were moments where I felt like I wanted one thing out of a friendship/ relationship but months later that would change…I thought.

If I’m constantly wanting something different then it must’ve not been really serious or something what I actually wanted.

But that’s not true.

Wanting something different in terms of how to be loved, heck even what you want to eat is important.

Never sell yourself short when it comes to love or yourself.

You are always constantly growing, constantly learning things about yourself and adopting other things…it’s life! It’s natural…

Overall, knowing and realizing that I had a platform to grow from things that no longer seemed like me anymore or served me.

It let go a lot of tension in trying to maintain something that wasn’t there to begin with.

Even though I still sometimes struggle with moving on from traits and wants that no longer matter to me.

I find it really helpful to know it doesn’t matter if I change and grow from it.

XOXO,

Sangai